I'm not one for making resolutions, I can't stand the disappointment when they eventually fizzle out. However, with this step into a new orbit of the sun I want to have a fresh outlook on life. 2016 was busy, work was crazy and the year flashed by with but a few chances to enjoy the small moments.

So this year and into the future, I want to remember to stop and take a moment. I love my work and enjoy living a hectic life, but I don't want life to pass me by without appreciating the small parts that make my overall life incredible. I want to focus on the serenity of silence, and the bedlam of noise; the thrill of the rush, and the sweetness of the slow. This may be a tall order, but I think it can be done with ease if I concentrate on it. It could just be a simple matter of turning the radio off for the drive to the office, laughing at the insanity of my schedule, or taking a bath rather than a shower. These aren't big changes, or resolutions as such, there isn't really a problem that needs resolving, it's more a case of accepting my life and enjoying it in all its shapes and forms.

Too often we wish for something else, a life that isn't ours. We are surrounded every day by individuals that seem to have the perfect life, but nobody really knows what a perfect life is! We only have our existence to adapt or alter as we see fit, we are the captains of our being and we need to make sure that it works for us. But that might not entail diets, or working out, or starting a new hobby, it may just be about making the best of what life has given you.

I feel that the past few years we have witnessed a shift in perspective away from financial success to a more inner sense of achievement. The western world has been through a time of excess and is transitioning into an era that understands that success is within. We should focus on what is in front of us instead of what could be. Aspiration is a wonderful thing, but it can also be distracting. Excuse the cliche, but I want to enjoy the 'now' more and stop worrying about the overall goal. As so many inspiration quotes say, it's about the journey not the destination. However cheesy that may seem, I do want to be able to do this more in the future (near and distant).

Let's hope for a more mindful 2017 and a year full of memories, big and small.

 
Comments
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Comment by: jhughson@rogers.com on 1/31/2017 2:05:24 PM

I vowed to do this last year - living more in the moment and slowing down time. It's worked and I'm much happier for it. All the best Sarah. Enjoy life.


Comment by: kathydempsey@bell.net on 1/27/2017 9:29:24 PM

Thank you. I am so grateful that I live in the moment and enjoy all the relationships in my life. I have turned my life over to being of service to my family, my friends and my fellow human. I realize now how fast time is passing and want to be here now with love and tolerance. My next voyage will be to Africa as I have had the dream to go there and you and my friend Kim Brown have inspired me to do that. Here's to an amazing loving 2017


Comment by: Loretta Morreale on 1/27/2017 9:36:42 AM

Love this article. Having recently retired, I realized how much I missed while working . I too had to juggle a corporate job, my children's schooling, school trips, sport's practices and games, dance classes and recitals. It wasn't easy, but I did it when I could. I decided to have children so I needed to be part of their life. There were many missed moments that can't be replaced with money, sure without money they couldn't do the activities that they did, but they are older now and we still sit together for dinner as a family as reminisce about the past...camping with bears in the background (Grundy Lake and Algonquin ) and the times trophies were taken away because it just wasn't meant to be. Precious moments are the small memories that last a lifetime. Enjoy every minute of every day because life is short and we don't know how long we have on this earth. Children grow, parents get older but memories last forever. Cherish your family...you are an amazing mother and have a beautiful family. You are truly blessed!